aka “You know what chaps my ass #523?”
It’s bad enough that we providers/hookers/whores/victims/bitches (whatever we are being called this week) have to deal with society thinking that we are all evil little drug money grubbers OR we are infants in a grown womans body without the wherewithal to take charge of our own sexuality. It’s crazy, it’s frustrating, but its been going on for centuries and we will continue to fight the good fight.
No, what twists my panties in a wad (if I wore them) are when I come across statements such as “Men who have to buy sex from random strangers are pathetic” or “Only losers purchase the services of a prostitute”…. Seriously?
Well now let’s see. Let’s take a look at some of the more envious pathetic losers here. When I say envious it’s because I know more men who would rather be one of the following than living the life they are now.
Lawrence Taylor – wasn’t that long ago so I’m sure you remember the story. He is a Hall of Fame former American football player. Taylor played his entire professional career as a linebacker for the New York Giants in the National Football League (NFL). He is considered to be one of the greatest players in the history of football, and has been ranked as the top defensive player in league history by former players, coaches, media members, and news outlets such as the NFL Network, and Sporting News. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lawrence_Taylor)
Um yea… Honestly, I can’t see where anyone with a brain would consider this man pathetic or a loser. Guy just wanted a little romp in the sheets with a willing participant, maybe he was lonely that night, maybe the company of Rosie Palm and her five sisters just didn’t want to do it for him. Sure sure, he could have gone to a bar for some free stuff. I mean maybe nobody would recognize him, maybe women wouldn’t stumble over themselves to have sex with someone famous that they could twitter their friends about later. But maybe the guy just wanted to relax in his room with a pretty female with no pretenses, no games. They each knew what they wanted from each other and a professional never twitters about her clients, nor will she call him the next day and ask if he is thinking of her, nor will she realize how much money and fame he has and try to blackmail him down the road. All of which is a higher risk if he would have gone and found free stuff at the bar but much less of a risk when hiring a pro. To me, this man that is neither a loser nor pathetic, showed that he has a practical head on his shoulders. Now what the dumbass didn’t do was research. He should have gotten on the local hooker board, found an adult prostitute, read her posts and information to get a feel for her personality. In doing so he would also realize that she was independent and not a victim of coercion. Pimps don’t let their girls gossip and giggle on hooker boards generally. But sadly, this was not the case. He calls up a friend, whom I assume he trusts, who sends over a young looking girl. LT sees the girl and thinks WHOA you is a bit too young looking, asks the girl how old she is and SHE replies 19. He has no other reason not to believe her, it’s not like she is a card carrying member of the National Providers Association or is listed in the Better Providers Bureau. (Both agencies SHOULD exist for exactly this purpose IMO). And you know the rest of his story…
Charlie Sheen – Sheen was the 2004 spokesperson for the Lee National Denim Day breast cancer fundraiser that raised millions of dollars for research and education regarding the disease. Sheen stated that a friend of his died from breast cancer, and he wanted to try to help find a cure for the disease.
A major donor and supporter of Aid For AIDS since 2006, Sheen was honored with an AFA Angel Award, one of only a few ever given, at the nonprofit’s 25th Silver Anniversary Receptionin 2009. In addition to his financial support, he has volunteered to act as a celebrity judge for several years for their annual fundraiser, Best In Drag Show, which raises around a quarter of a million dollars each year in Los Angeles for AIDS assistance. He has brought other celebrities to support the event, including his father, actor Martin Sheen.Sheen’s interest in AIDS was first reported in 1987 with his support of Ryan White, an Indiana teenager who became a national spokesperson for AIDS awareness after being infected with AIDS through a blood transfusion for his hemophilia. Sheen is donating one dollar from each ticket sold from his “My Violent Torpedo of Truth/Defeat is Not An Option Show” 2011 tour to the Red CrossJapanese Earthquake Relief Fund. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlie_sheen)
Jimmy Swaggart – a PentecostalAmericanpastor, teacher, musician, television host, and televangelist. He has preached to crowds around the world through his weekly telecast. According to the official website for Jimmy Swaggart Ministries, his 1980s telecast was transmitted to over 3,000 stations and cable systems each week. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jimmy_Swaggart)
Hugh Grant – He has received a Golden Globe Award, aBAFTA, and an Honorary César. His movies have also earned more than $2.4 billion from 25 theatrical releases worldwide. Grant achieved international stardom after appearing in Richard Curtis‘s sleeper hitFour Weddings and a Funeral (1994). He used this breakthrough role as a frequent cinematic persona during the 1990s to deliver comic performances in mainstream films like Mickey Blue Eyes (1999) and Notting Hill (1999). By the turn of the century, he had established himself as a leading man skilled with a satirical comic talent. Since the 2000s, Grant has expanded his oeuvre with critically acclaimed turns as a cad in Bridget Jones’s Diary (2001), About A Boy (2002), Love Actually(2003), and American Dreamz (2006). (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hugh_Grant)
And there are more (here) and some we don’t know about.
The only one above that I would feel even close to being pathetic (as in feeling sorry for) would be Charlie Sheen and that is only due to narcotic and alcohol abuse. He has grown up around that crap and been a part of that party lifestlye by being born into it (Martin Sheen being his father and all). I’ve seen all to well what drug addiction or alcoholism can do to a person. But I certainly wouldn’t call him a loser and otherwise I don’t feel sorry for him. He is a successful and very well paid actor and has been for years in addition to various charities that he has contributed to.
But what about the unfamous? The normal every day guys that would hire women like me? Well, they do have to have a job – usually a very comfortable one in order to spend $200 or more without it putting a hurt on their personal finances. Not a loser in that respect. The ones that are married usually have highly successful marriages, in that they have been married to the same person for 20+ years. Rarely do I see a client who has been married for less than 5 years to the same woman.
Really the only “losers” I’ve met have been in my personal life. Now some people may be a loser at one thing and not another. He may be a loser when it comes to gainful employment, but has a happy personal life. Or vice versa. He may have a steady long term well respected career but has shitty luck when engaging in personal relationships. No one is perfect. Let the person who has never been a loser in at least one aspect of their life cast the first stone.
As far as pathetic I will simply copy here what I posted on another forum:
OP: If you have to pay a random person for sex..I’d say you are very pathetic human being.
My answer: Nobody HAS to pay for sex, it’s not like food that you have to pay for in order to live. People choose to pay for sex for various and very personal reasons. The business man who works 80 hours a week and doesn’t have time to nurture a relationship, the disabled man who doesn’t go to bars and works from home, the recently widowed man who craves female companionship but isn’t ready for a relationship, the man who was severely scarred in a fire and can’t find a woman who can stand to look at him for very long much less make love to him, the man who is … well I would hope you get the picture by now. I think it is pathetic for a man who is horny to have to go lie to a woman by telling her he wants a relationship just to get a little boom boom.
I also think people who are so quick to judge others when they know nothing of their situation is pathetic.
Simply put, some of you people need to get off your high horses and come down to the real world where everyone’s situation is NOT the same as your perfect little life.