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I just love people who get it. I especially love people who get it and say it on a widely read news site:

Criminalisation harms sex workers

The Canadian Courts recently heard these arguments from Janice Raymond and Melissa Farley (both American academics who have never done sex work) and dismissed their ‘evidence’ on the basis that they couldn’t substantiate their claims (In the words of SM – LOL #FAIL). The court found that the harms related to sex work were caused by criminalisation – not by sex work in and of itself. Sex work is not inherently harmful. Criminalisation is. (Refer to my post Accountants and cars)

Criminalising the activities associated with sex work, or sex work itself, is neither contemporary nor modern, nor is it based on any reliable evidence.

Sex workers have consistently proven that health self-regulation is not only possible but successful.

Arguing for increased criminalisation such as the Swedish model is to ignore 30 years of evidence promoting the success of decriminalisation.

Silencing or deliberately undermining sex workers’ voices is one way that anti-sex work campaigners hide the harms that are created by criminalisation. Anti-sex work activists view sex workers’ protest against the Swedish Model as driven by greed or delusion. One tactic often used is the claim that those who speak up against the Swedish model must be pimps or brothel owners, interested only in exploiting others. Another tactic is to describe sex workers as having “false consciousness” and as having “Stockholm syndrome.” Either way, their voices are often ignored.

Trafficking and sex work are two different things. Trafficking is a crime; sex work is a job. Anyone who cannot understand that these phenomena are unlike each other has a whorephobic boner and is emotionally attached to defining sex workers as victims.

…such views make sex workers invisible when we inconveniently speak out against the conflation of sex work and trafficking, and against the insult that we would have to be victimised to choose the job that we do.

Sex worker voices and health should be all that really matter in these debates, as it is our lives that are affected while others simply theorise from the sidelines.

These are but a few excerpts from the article which I c/p over here to illustrate the points I wholeheartedly agree with. This is nothing new to my peers and I. We have been saying this over and over and over. Read the article, learn, understand. Follow the links that are posted within it from the original site and educate yourself. Better yet, UNDERSTAND what is going on and how some of you sheeple are being manipulated.

And then of course I read the stupid asonine you-don’t-know-what-you-are-talking-about comments and just want to hit the reply button over and over to say things like asshole, dipshit, moron, twit…. Like this dude:

Anthony :

08 Apr 2011 12:24:38pm

Surely sex work is work women do when their self esteem is too low to enter the real workforce? Elena, you may be in denial about your situation but that doesn’t mean the rest of us have to be as well. I engaged the services of a sex worker on only one occasion, and I found it to be a very sad and demoralising experience. Sex work is not a legitimate form of work, its simply a social saftey valve.

Gotta love the hookers who responded to this:

Kylie :

08 Apr 2011 7:08:16pm

Anthony, people enter the sex industry for all sorts of reasons and at all different stages of their lives. While I started at 20, I had already been working in catering and other jobs since I was 14 (bakery, cafeteria, Sizzlers, fruit shop, pamphlet delivery, maths tutor etc). Other friends of mine entered the industry when they were in their 40’s. A lot of us have 2 occupations (nurse, graphic designer, counselor, script writer, parents, teachers, models, accountants, dress makers, IT consultants..). So no, our self esteems are quite fine thanks, we’re just making choices based on the sound economic principle that we can earn money / more money within the sex industry.

I was going to uni earning about $8 / hr at a bottle shop when I entered the sex industry. It gave me great freedom to study more (psychology degree) and choose to live closer to the uni so my commute was shorter. The sex industry gave me a great deal of skills that I utilise in all aspects of my life. I am extremely empowered now, I am very capable of setting very clearly defined boundaries,and I have a far greater understanding of safer sex practices and equipment. Before that I was just like many other women who were on the Pill and had casual sex without negotiating condom use. Now I teach my clients about STI transmission and the benefits of using condoms or femidoms.

Since entering the sex industry I am much more comfortable with my body. I still hate my rotund bottom but after so many years of my clients giving me very respectful, lovely compliments I have come to understand that real men like all shapes and sizes – NOT just the magazine/ billboard size 1 models everyone thinks all sex workers should look like.

My self esteem is just fine thanks. I can assure you I am not in denial about how I choose to live my life.

I love my job. My clients are great. It’s the general public who dismiss the voices of sex workers again and again that hurt us. You guys are the ones who we want to escape from. You are the ones who make me sad and upset.

And then here is this hair leg:

HC :

08 Apr 2011 10:19:43am

The re-criminalisation of the sex industry is necessary to prevent and address trafficking into prostitution and prevent sexual servitude. Victims of trafficking also need assistance. Brutal violence against prostitutes are inherent in the nature of this sad industry. Changes in laws do not protect vulnerable women. These women should be helped out of their situation, but legitimizing them isn’t the answer. Prostitution is a form of male violence against women. Decriminalization is a boon to the underworld. Prostitution and the trafficking of women are not separate issues.

Far from empowering women, prostitution does little more than reduce women to instruments of pleasure and impersonal objects for sexual gratification. The real lesson here is plain and simple: human dignity can be legislated away. Legalized prostitution does not stop illegal prostitution, but allows it to continue to operate, with unregulated prostitution increasing faster than legal prostitution activities.

I’m just waiting for some of the ladies to get a hold of his happy ass. It if doesn’t happen I’m setting Bad Brandy on him.






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How do people progress? By learning. Learning from your own mistakes and observing others mistakes and learning from that. The US of A is in a position to do just that. However, you have to be willing to learn and willing to ask the questions that will prevent mistakes from being made here.

I came across the article below this morning. Some people, like the Farleys, will look at it and go “SEE! THAT’s why we can’t legalize prostitution here and why it won’t solve diddly squat!”

Others, like myself, look at the same article and go “Hmmm, I see. How can we prevent that scenario from happening here should we adopt a similar policy?”

Here is the article (Sex slavery continues in Europe) and here are some snippets:

There are several scholars and organizations in the United States who have advocated the legalization of prostitution in order to remove the crime from the sex trade.If one removes the profit motive for an illegal activity, organized crime will always subvert the system in order to maintain their profits.

The recent arrest of pimps and “window brothel” owners in Amsterdam’s red light district revealed the continuation of organized crime gangs involved in the sex trade.

The rationale for the law, at least in past, was legalizing prostitution would reduce the presence of organized crime in the sex trade. Brothels were licensed, opened for health inspections, and both owners and prostitutes would be taxed as would any other legitimate business and worker.

Organized crime gangs did what organized crime gangs usually do: adjust their operation and search for loopholes in order to achieve illegal profits from criminal activity.

For example, the Brothel Law stipulates only those able to legally work in the Netherlands could seek employment in the sex trade.

This opened the door to “exotic” women and those exotic women were usually illegal aliens being forces at times into participating in the sex trade.  These illegal alien women — some still in their early teens — are from outside the European Union or from those countries in the EU not eligible to work in the Netherlands.

What I would like to know is why? Why are clients/customers/consumers choosing to go with illegal hookers as opposed to the legal ones? Are they cheaper? Do you just not know if they are legally allowed to work or not? Are there no standards/regulations/laws for the patronizing of an illegal prostitute? And how can we avoid this in the States if such a thing ever comes to pass?

Instead of climbing up on a soapbox and shouting “SEE! I TOLD you so!”, hunker your ass down in a think tank and figure out how to protect workers and consumers of the sex trade and figure out ways to avoid the trafficking aspect.

Do I have ideas? You know I do. If men have no repercussions no matter which prostitute they pick, they aren’t going to care. If a man has an option of freely being allowed to see a legal prostitute but will be fined, jailed, whatever by seeing an illegal prostitute – perhaps he will make the right choice. We all hear of ‘end demand’ programs, most of which don’t work because you don’t give anyone options. It’s my way or the highway.

Let the NGO maintain a list of (remember I’m against real life info here) certified/registered/legal prostitutes and issue ASWA cards. Yes I know, cards can be faked. That’s why you have an online database that you can use to verify the ID#s or whatever. Men can choose an ASWA member legally and avoid the illegal hookers. Make it known that there are penalties for being caught with an ‘illegal’ hooker and dumbass, you should have gone to the ASWA huh?

Would it work? Would it cause more problems than it would be worth? I don’t know. I can’t think of everything which is why there should be a board of AVP’s overseeing this kind of thing. Through collaboration we can come up with answers to these questions and more importantly – solutions.


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